I was talking to a friend today and she described a common experience many of us have when living with someone, whether it be a roommate or a romantic partner. She came home from a long day of work to laundry unfolded, clothing hanging over…

In my experience in treating those with symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)- there is usually some form of a trauma history. Most consistently, I have found emotional abuse to be present. The presence of some form of abuse creates the maladaptive coping skills that…

I want to explain one of my favorite distress tolerance skills. It is sometimes difficult to come home after a long day at work and realize I still have to do dishes, or laundry, walk the dog, shower and respond to emails, and ask my…

Feelings of being separate, disconnected, or, worse, unsupported, can all too easily snowball into feeling alone and isolated. Though we may not hear about it often, depersonalization is estimated to be the third most common mental health symptom behind anxiety and depression. It often occurs…

A potent symptom of BPD is a poor sense of self. Plenty of people without BPD struggle with identity issues, too. But people with BPD often have a very profound lack of sense of self. If you struggle with the feeling that you have no idea who…

We all experience feelings and emotions, negative and positive, whether we acknowledge it or not. For some though, feeling these emotions can seem overwhelming, like an out-of-control roller coaster. Sometimes we think we need to be “strong” or not express how we feel so we…